It can be easy to see life through your own lens and perspective. As parents with children on the spectrum, there are moments when our lenses as parents may have been misunderstood by those assuming our children had neurotypical behaviors and processes.
While it is no fault to anyone that misunderstandings arise due to lack of knowledge about autism, here is my list of things a parent with a child on the spectrum would like for you to know:
When you refer to my child, please don’t say “he is autistic”. I’d prefer you to say, “he has autism”. Individuals with autism are intricately woven together like an artful masterpiece. It is to our discredit to focus on one attribute and miss out on the beauty of the entire person.
Don’t assume! If my child is behaving differently or making loud noises in public, it does not mean I’m not a good parent. I’m already blaming myself as it is and I don’t need you to do it, too. Sometimes the environment plays a major part in the life of an individual impacted by autism. Empathy goes a long way.